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This couple is kissing outdoors in Salvador, Brazil. I don't think I can ever recall seeing a black couple kissing in public. I have witnessed a white couple or two in my lifetime swapping saliva, but in general, is this something we do?

Photo Credit:
Miami Herald

Does the pressure really begin in preschool? This little girl is already thinking about law school. Check out the vocab...lol, she's probably ready to take the SAT or LSAT. This is a symbolic video about societal pressure to be accepted by others. I like it. The YouTube member describes the video:

"A preschool girl attempts to gain social status through material means only to find out she's been trumped."

Yesterday, “Nancy Grace” did a segment on former NBA player Jason Caffey and his child support suits and bankruptcy. The report is Caffey owes over $400,000 in child support payments for 10 children by 8 different women in 5 different states. And I guess these are the ones, as Nancy put it "that we know about." According to Grace, bankruptcy doesn't exempt a parent from paying child support.

They reported that he claims $11,000 as his monthly income and pays out almost $7,000 per month. Caffey, over the span of his eight-year career played professional basketball for the Chicago Bulls, the Bucks, and Warriors, they estimated his annual salary to be at least $5 Million per year, and he retired five years ago.

His college sweetheart and mother of his first child was on the show. It looks as if she has moved on, because she was photo’d in what appeared to be a wedding gown with a man, and perhaps a family photo with the guy, and a young boy. She reported when he worked, he paid his child support. After he retired, payments were inconsistent. This is one mother. He claims after retirement, he does not make the same income, and should not have to make the same payments.

Nancy gets into what she calls his string of businesses that he is reported to have, and one of her guests talks about him having had supposedly having a history of a "mental illness—social anxiety disorder." What it has to do with payments, who knows? Several obvious issues are in play, besides the one of responsibility. However, is this too logical---when you are changing jobs or moving from a certain income level to a lesser level, doesn’t the parent go into court and say in the beginning, “I can’t afford these payments?” I don't know what his situation was, because I have not followed his story.

No one knows all the financial details, but they had some of his financial information on supersoakerstyle blast. It looked like snippets of an annual report statement up on the screen. I mean WOW. I must really be out of the loop, because I thought people stopped having so many kids-here-there-everywhere. Anyway, a whole lotta dynamics are working this issue. Listen to audio clip

Both sites are filled with real concerns and advice from real people, not politically correct answers typical of relationship columns in various publications. There is a male companion site www.DearBlackWoman.com.

My preconceived notion was: Oh no....not another black male bashing site. But I found it to be more of a tool for dialogue to some serious concerns black woman have about black men. Visitors can submit open letters for response, hopefully by the opposite sex. There is a message forum also. The men's site appears to be younger and developing.

My biggest questions for both men and women would be 1) Why don't we marry? 2) Why do we have children first, then maybe school, then maybe, maybe marriage? I struggle with answering those questions. I think it is time to stop using slavery as an excuse. Check them out.

I just left Essence.com to check out their “60 Do Right Men” campaign since I heard on the radio this morning that they were listing 60 ballin’ eligible bachelors many of whom are millionaires with email address listings. Curiosity brought me there.

This action seems unprecedented, as I cannot recall the last time when a magazine has gone so far as to leave email addresses of eligible black bachelors wide open for spam. I must admit I am not in the market for a man, but the fact that the radio personality announced that email addresses were listed…well, I had to see for my own eyes.

The whole think just wreaks of a publicity front…LOL j/k in a mild sense.
I mean videos, photos, quizzes, polls and voting, again I am not buying the hype. Now they know good and dAAyum well their email boxes will be flooded with thousands and thousands of gold digger inquiries. Their(diggers) chances are a little bit better than winning the Publishers’ Clearing House Sweepstakes, but it does seem like a fun concept. Fun for them, Essence, that is…LOL to read all of those “I can’t believe she wrote this,” or see “I can’t believe she sent this” photos.

Imagine the screening process. Probably ninety percent of the emails or potential matches will not make it through their screening process. Women can be dummies at times.

Sometimes it seems as if we are always looking for a man or cannot live without one. What about a grace period? Take time off for self. Enjoy the freedom of tending to self. If you are one of those ladies who might be thinking about sending an email and you just got out of a relationship, are getting out of one, or have not been in one for at least a year, you should re-consider. Take some time to learn something new, travel, strengthen yourself spiritually, financially, and emotionally…

I only write this, because I know hundreds, if not thousands of women who in their current state aren’t relationship material, could use a makeover, and should not be sending emails to anyone (trying to start a new relationship). They will soon be composing their matchmaking marketing letter and pressing that send button, in hopes of getting a response from one of the sixty. Ladies take a second breath. It is not such a bad idea to pass on this one.

Reference: Essence.com
Url: Essence Do Right Men